TRANSFORMED: Part 5 – Relational Health


Message Recap | 3.8.2015
Speaker: Aaron Taylor, Lead Pastor

Relationships can be good for us.  There were friends I had in high school that were very, very close.  We’d see each other every day at school, and we’d also find time to spend the weekend with each other.  We were a close knit group.  I would hope, looking back, that we were not seen as a clique, but rather just a group of very close friends.  Even today, there are some who still live in the area and as adults, we are still close.  These are wonderful memories.  But then there were those in my high school class that I was afraid to approach as a friend. It’s not because I didn’t want to be with them, but I was just afraid.  I was fearful that I wasn’t someone who they could like. So I distanced myself from them so that I could remain safe and secure with my close friends.  I wonder today, what if?

This week we look at relational health.  Transforming relationships so that we make them better.  I want to look at diffusing the fears that ruin relationships.  To do that we’re going to go all the way back to the book of Genesis, the very first book of the Bible, and look at the first couple Adam and Eve because that’s where all the problems started.  Thank you Adam and thank you Eve!

Things went along really great for a long time between Adam and Eve because there was no sin.  So there was no sadness, no sickness, no sorrow, no suffering, no deceit, no lying, no manipulating, no jealousy.  None of these things in their relationship.  They were the only couple who had a perfect relationship.  The only ones.

Then you know, “The rest of the story.”  This can be found in Genesis Chapter 3, verses 6-19.  This is a fascinating story, filled with enormous amounts of spiritual truth in it.  But I just want to point out the relational truths.  Because in this story we see the three basic fundamental fears that pop up in every single relationship.  There’s the fear of exposure which makes us distant.  Then there’s the fear of disapproval which makes us defensive. And last, there’s the fear of losing control which makes us demanding.

If you want to know more about Transformed Part 5 – Relational Health and diffusing fears that ruin relationships, listen to our podcast at for the complete message.

Friend, do you want transformed relationships?  It is important then to recognize the reasons for your hiding.  You need to identify the fear that is keeping you from having healthy relationships.  The love of God is an amazing love that can cast out all fear.  God is consistent.  You are completely accepted by God.  You are unconditionally loved by God.  You are totally forgiven through God.  You are extremely valuable to God. If you haven’t surrendered your heart to God, you can do that today, believing that God loves you so much that that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)  This week ask yourself, is there someone else you need to offer that same unconditional love to?


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